“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1
Bible Verses About Arguing in Relationships
Understanding Each Other
James 1:19
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”
Proverbs 18:13
“To answer before listening— that is folly and shame.”
Philippians 2:4
“Not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”
Proverbs 20:5
“The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.”
Colossians 3:12-14
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
Ephesians 4:2
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”
1 Peter 3:8
“Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.”
Romans 15:7
“Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.”
Matthew 7:12
“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.”
Proverbs 25:11
“Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a ruling rightly given.”
Handling Conflict with Love
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”
Ephesians 4:26
“In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.”
Proverbs 29:11
“Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.”
Colossians 3:8
“But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.”
Proverbs 14:29
“Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.”
Galatians 5:22-23
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”
Romans 12:21
“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”
Matthew 5:9
“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.”
James 3:17
“But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.”
Romans 14:19
“Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.”
Forgiveness in Relationships
Ephesians 4:32
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
Matthew 6:14-15
“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
Colossians 3:13
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Luke 17:3-4
“So watch yourselves. If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying ‘I repent,’ you must forgive them.”
Mark 11:25
“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”
Acts 3:19
“Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord.”
Matthew 18:21-22
“Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times!'”
Isaiah 43:25
“I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more.”
Psalm 103:12
“As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.”
1 John 1:9
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”
Maintaining Honor in Disagreements
Proverbs 15:18
“A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.”
Proverbs 19:11
“A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.”
Philippians 4:5
“Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.”
1 Peter 2:17
“Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor.”
Proverbs 10:12
“Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs.”
Philippians 2:3
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.”
Galatians 6:1
“Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.”
Hebrews 12:14
“Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord.”
Romans 12:18
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
1 Timothy 6:11
“But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness.”
Resolving Arguments Wisely
Proverbs 17:14
“Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.”
Proverbs 31:26
“She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.”
Proverbs 10:19
“Sin is not ended by multiplying words, but the prudent hold their tongues.”
Ecclesiastes 3:1
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”
2 Timothy 2:24
“And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.”
Proverbs 12:18
“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
Colossians 4:6
“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”
Proverbs 26:20
“Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down.”
James 4:1
“What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?”
Romans 13:10
“Love does no harm to a neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.”
Growing Stronger Together
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.”
2 Corinthians 13:11
“Finally, brothers and sisters, rejoice! Strive for full restoration, encourage one another, be of one mind, live in peace. And the God of love and peace will be with you.”
Proverbs 27:17
“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
1 Thessalonians 5:11
“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”
Hebrews 10:24-25
“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another.”
Colossians 1:9-10
“For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way.”
Philippians 1:3-5
“I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now.”
1 John 4:12
“No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.”
Romans 15:5-6
“May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
Galatians 3:28
“There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
Final Thoughts
Arguing in relationships can be tough, but with God’s guidance, we can find better ways to communicate. The Bible encourages us to listen, forgive, and handle our disagreements with love. Each verse gives us insight into how we can approach our relationships with kindness, humility, and respect. By focusing on understanding and growing together, we can turn challenges into opportunities for deeper connections.
As we keep these teachings in mind, we can strive to maintain peace and harmony in our relationships. Remember, we are all learning and growing, and God is with us every step of the way. Let us always seek to embody love and patience, ensuring our relationships reflect Christ in all we do.
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